To cry. To laugh. To think. On your own.
Because if we take the time to realize, we are our only friend. We take care of ourself, we are being told to never trust someone 100%, and we watched with our own eyes that people who are suppose to watch each other's back turns out to be betraying one another. Why? Because we never know what they feel inside.
We never really know what our bestfriend think when we told them our problems, she might laugh inside, she might be glad that you have it, but why do we refuse to believe this and decided to believe that they actually care?
Because we wanted to be cared about.
And we wanted to care about someone.
This whole thing about having no one as your friend in real life, happens to everyone. Which makes you are not alone. Get it? You are not alone because you are alone. You dont really get it, do you?
The fact that everyone feels the same make them see the person in front of them differently. They know what this person is going through, they know how it feels like, they've walked in this person's shoes.
They said dont tell someone to stop crying if you dont know how it feels like, right?
Well at least, that's what we supposed to feel. Unfortunately some people dont get it.
So because we are all alone at heart, we know when someone need a hug, or a smile. A friend. That's why we started making friends.
When you're with them, nothing ever goes wrong, eh? You promised to yourself to never let them down, to always make them smile, to never let anyone hurt them, to help them with all you can when they're in trouble. Even though deep down, you know you cant do everything on your promises.
But this people you call friends will not always be there for you, they may not always make you smile when you're down, they're not always on your side, they sometimes tell you you're wrong, but you refuse to believe them even though you're not right. They may have different opinions, you guys disagree on many things, their decisions may let you down. They can break you, but they can also make you.
How to keep them on your side? By letting them go when they need to. People have problems, people have days when they feel like the couldnt make it any longer, sometimes a hug is not enough. Some times it takes more than just a hug.
It takes time.
They need time.
You need time.
On your own. To figure things out. To decide wether to be immature or to start growing up. To take a look back, and to think. To think what you should do to face the world, the situation, the people you love.
To just find out who you are.
Let them have their own time. To cool off. Let them go. But dont make them run too far. When they're ready, come to them. Let them know that you are there for them. That they are safe with you. That they can trust you. Maybe we should stop saying I love you and start saying I care about you.
Because I love you is too mainstream, it gets too exposed, lots of people doesnt really mean it while saying it. Some people might be manipulating us when they said it to us. But we dont have any choice, we believe them.
Let them know that they care about you. Let them know that they are needed. Because, at the end of the day, that's what we really need right? To be needed. So say it from the bottom of your heart. Sincere. Unforced.
But maybe I'm wrong. Maybe this post was just a piece of bullshits. Maybe this world is too cold to agree with me,
But maybe, just maybe, you understand.
30.4.12
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